the 7 year thing is not just for couples or marriage but also for friends, close friends... if they last longer than that then they're for keeps.
i guess that means that it takes about 7 years for people's real or core personalities to come through - and for other people to feel them.
i had thought that E and C would be for keeps.
C started leaking power-hunger through the cracks and i still stood up for her. but when she tried to focus her black magic on me, i got away as fast as i could. and she probably still thinks that i don't see the real her. that i am as nice and dumb as she thinks i am. she never wanted me back, for reasons of her own. maybe she fears that i know too much, or that i might surpass whatever value she placed upon her abilities as a teacher, or that having been abroad i might simply overshadow her. and the fact that i am simply not interested in the same goals (money, glamor, fame) as she is does not even matter to her. so she just made sure that coming back to the school would not be easy for me.
E on the other hand, i still cant fully understand what went on with her. i don't believe that i had changed in my attitude towards her when i came back from my first trip to the US. but i was just more involved with my own family after having been away from them for so long. i guess being away from each other made her "see" some things that weren't there or that she would have just overloooked had we been together as often as we were when we were still teaching in the same school. and perhaps, having had her first boyfriend gave her the confidence to give me up.
whatever. E does it to most of her friends. and the girls she used to be contemptuous of, she now hangs out with and calls her friends.
i had not realized how much time and circumstance can change people. or from another point of view, how much it can reveal their true selves.
because i think and i feel and so i believe that all through my life i have not changed much. that i am who i was 10, even 15 years ago. if someone who met me back then says that i have changed a lot, then chances are that person did not know me well.
but those who do, know that i am who i was, and will probably always be the same old same old bird(scatter)brain.
a little older, obviously. a little smarter, hopefully. a little wiser, maybe. and a little tougher, wishfully.
i guess that means that it takes about 7 years for people's real or core personalities to come through - and for other people to feel them.
i had thought that E and C would be for keeps.
C started leaking power-hunger through the cracks and i still stood up for her. but when she tried to focus her black magic on me, i got away as fast as i could. and she probably still thinks that i don't see the real her. that i am as nice and dumb as she thinks i am. she never wanted me back, for reasons of her own. maybe she fears that i know too much, or that i might surpass whatever value she placed upon her abilities as a teacher, or that having been abroad i might simply overshadow her. and the fact that i am simply not interested in the same goals (money, glamor, fame) as she is does not even matter to her. so she just made sure that coming back to the school would not be easy for me.
E on the other hand, i still cant fully understand what went on with her. i don't believe that i had changed in my attitude towards her when i came back from my first trip to the US. but i was just more involved with my own family after having been away from them for so long. i guess being away from each other made her "see" some things that weren't there or that she would have just overloooked had we been together as often as we were when we were still teaching in the same school. and perhaps, having had her first boyfriend gave her the confidence to give me up.
whatever. E does it to most of her friends. and the girls she used to be contemptuous of, she now hangs out with and calls her friends.
i had not realized how much time and circumstance can change people. or from another point of view, how much it can reveal their true selves.
because i think and i feel and so i believe that all through my life i have not changed much. that i am who i was 10, even 15 years ago. if someone who met me back then says that i have changed a lot, then chances are that person did not know me well.
but those who do, know that i am who i was, and will probably always be the same old same old bird(scatter)brain.
a little older, obviously. a little smarter, hopefully. a little wiser, maybe. and a little tougher, wishfully.
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